A woman has been slammed online after always “forgetting” her wallet when eating at expensive restaurants.
Published on Reddit’s controversial r/AmITheA**hole forum, a woman under the anonymous username u/Slow-Pianist-4431 shared her story in order to receive the opinions of the “AITA” community. The viral post has over 15,000 upvotes and 1,000 comments.
The original poster (OP) began her story by explaining that her sister-in-law, “Amy,” comes to visit them frequently as she isn’t from the area. However, she always wants to eat at expensive restaurants and when they do, she consistently forgets her wallet or makes excuses on why she can’t pay her part.
The OP’s sister-in-law believes that since she makes more money than her, she should be the one to pay. The Redditor admits that she makes good money, but not enough to treat someone to an expensive meal regularly. When she forgets her wallet, the OP typically pays and asks her sister-in-law to pay her back but she never does.
“She had made a reservation at an extremely expensive restaurant last night, and before we left, I made it clear that I wouldn’t be paying her bill,” she explained, “As we were leaving, her and my husband went to the car. I pretended I forgot something and went back inside. I found her wallet sitting right on top of her suitcase. I put it in my purse and we went to the restaurant.”
“When we were done eating, I asked for separate bills. She said no, we need one bill, because she ‘forgot’ her wallet again. I reached in my purse and said, “this wallet?” She was extremely furious. She said that I should not have touched or grabbed her wallet,” she continued.
In a recent edit made to the post, she explained that her sister-in-law found her post made to the popular Reddit forum and snapped at her for “badmouthing her on the internet.”
Newsweek reached out to u/Slow-Pianist-4431 for comment.
How to handle a “freeloader”
Do you have a friend or family member who tends to “mooch” off of you? A “freeloader” tends to take advantage of other people’s kindness and does not give anything in return.
Takeyoursuccess.com shared some tips on how to handle the “freeloader” in your life:
- Voice your expectations ahead of time: Explain that everyone is paying for themselves and that they should plan accordingly.
- Don’t give in: Be sure to be confident and say no when necessary.
- Stop agreeing to “I’ll pay you back later”: Say no and refuse to pay for their share.
- Be honest with them: If the freeloading continues, sit them down and talk with them and be direct.
- Limit the interactions: If nothing seems to be working, try not seeing them as often or leave the friendship.
“[Not the a**hole] but you totally should have flipped the switch- left your wallet at home- only brought your licence so she had to cover the whole bill then never taken her out to a restaurant again,” u/jizzy_lizzie suggested, receiving the top comment of over 11,000 comments.
“[Not the a**hole]. She’s playing checkers, you’re playing chess, and she’s mad you called her on her BS,” u/lost_squid89 wrote.
“[Not the a**hole], but you really have a husband problem,” u/NerdySwampWitch explained, “He needs to lay down the law to his sister. She is the guest. If she is picking the restaurant, she is paying for her meal. That from now on, there will be a wallet check before she leaves the house. And that his wife’s job isn’t there to supplement Amy’s lifestyle.”
“LOL. Savage and definitely [Not the a**hole]. How immature of her to think she can take advantage of you like that,” u/underwhelmed1001 commented.